Comments: QOTD: Strip Clubs - Pro, Con or What's the Big Whoop?

We should let our significant other hear our real opinions no matter how "stiff" they sound, espcially if its crossing our boundries on what we call personal between one another. I cannot for the life of me understand the need to look at other naked women and have them rub their bodies all over them. If you feel the need to do that, you aren't satisfied at home and you shouldn't be getting married.

Posted by Mary Bauter, Milwaukee Wisconsin at May 12, 2005 09:25 PM

don't know what the big deal is. if he goes once, fine. if he goes twice, not so fine. if he goes a lot, big problem.

Posted by Sari at May 13, 2005 10:01 AM

While I appreciate Mary's opinion, and she is certainly entitled to it, I think it is a little overboard to compute going to a strip club for one's bachelor party with not being ready to get married.

Mary, here is a tip from the opposite gender-most of us are embarrassed to have naked women near us in public, with people watching. Most of us are going with the flow for the sake of our friends and the tradition of the bachelor party. To get overly upset about it implies #1 over sensitivity, and lack of self confidence and #2 that you don't trust us. Both scenarios are unattractive.

Posted by Mike at May 13, 2005 12:40 PM

I appreciate everyone's comments so far and the emails I've received. If at all possible, I'd prefer it if you limit your responses to your own personal opinions, writing them as if you had never read another comment on this site. I agree that everyone is entitled to his or her own opinion, and that's what I'm trying to compile for the book.

I just want to keep this space free and open so that everyone feels comfortable sharing their thoughts.


Posted by Doug at May 13, 2005 01:27 PM

Guys feel this need to act as manly as possible when put in a group with other guys. This might enclude talking about sports, eating, playing video games, or going to strip clubs.

My fiancee has only gone to strip clubs for bachelor parties and while I don't really like it, I know that he would only go to hang out with the guys and put on a more manly front.

Probably my biggest problem I have with it is when he came home afterwards and I did't want him to look at me. I jumped under the covers with my oversized t-shirt (that I rarely wear to bed). While I know I have a nice figure, I just don't want him comparing me to the new images of women from the club.

I want to be the prettiest woman he's ever seen and it's hard to feel that I am if I don't know what he's seen.

Robyn Schuster
Lindale, TX

Posted by Robyn at May 15, 2005 12:42 AM

Do you have any interest in the thoughts of women married to other women, or are you looking for an opposite-sex-couple perspective, here?

Posted by Rebecca at May 15, 2005 04:57 PM

All opinions are welcome.


Posted by Doug at May 15, 2005 06:36 PM

I don't personally understand the hubbub a lot of women make over "porn." I get it, dudes like naked chicks...oooh big mystery boobs. Woo.
Whatever. Hanging at a strip club once in a while with the guys, or having a stack of stupid nudie mags shouldn't be equated with cheating or dumped on too hard.
I've been trying for years to get a crew together to hit a strip club. None of the guys I know are even interested. "Been there, done that." Once we ladies start putting too much emphasis on the's like the forbidden fruit ya see? Once you tell them they can't have it all they want to do is go to strip clubs....No big deal to you? They'll grow out of it.
If not, that's what Dr. Phil is for.

Posted by Jen at May 19, 2005 06:00 PM

I wouldn't have wanted my bachelor party to involve a visit to a strip club. I like watching strippers fine, but attending a strip show with guy friends seems like a sure way to remove any possible erotic appeal the strippers might have. I've attended some burlesque shows with Rose, and those have been fun.

Posted by Francis at June 1, 2005 01:32 PM