I comPLETELY understand the get-rid-of-everything sentiment.
We are staging a "please take away our some of our extraneous crap PLEASE" shower. (BYOB, of course.)
But ... dang. Printing registry info on the invite? My southern-lady breeding shudders at the thought.
When appropriate - such as with friends getting married this year or soon - we have instituted a "one wedding-one gift" rule. Seems silly to buy engagement, shower and wedding presents for someone only to have him or her do the same for us one month later.
I am not all too familiar with the Dear Prudence column - but does she always refer to herself in the third person? Prudie and Bob Dole should get together for a chat!