Good for you! I highly applaud your efforts! We feel the same way. I'm definitely all about not charging people to be part of your wedding. What is that, a wedding cover? We are catching a lot of attendant expenses as well.
I made my nightmare purple bridesmaid dress into our Halloween costumes last year. Pat, my boyfriend, was "The King of Beers" - he wore front panel of my dress as his cape. I was his Queen and used my wrap as my cape. The best part was getting busted on the reuse of the dress by a random girl in a corner store. I don't think Pat's ever been asked if he was wearing a dress before - or at least parts of a dress!
never understood the whole dress thing. never seen one that looks good. i'll have my guys wear tuxes, but nothing special.
My bridesmaids got their dresses from Banana Republic...definately something they can wear again, and all 3 got them during the "end of summer" sale, about $75!!
My bridesmaids are wearing their own black cocktail dresses. They need another ugly dress like a hole in the head. I want them to feel lovely.
Hurrah! Everyone looks like me like I have a hole in my head when I told them I just asked my bridesmaids to find a dress in a solid color that was floor length. My sisters and best friend don't share skin tones either, so I wanted them to also be able to find a color they liked. My florist is going to work with me to pick out flowers in the tones they pick to pull everything together. They all love me. :)