I'm taking some time off from blogging as I focus on other projects, enjoy the summer, and try to figure out a new use for this site. Aside from some major announcement, like a call from Oprah asking me to be on her show, this space will remain fairly inactive for now. If you'd like to be notified when Planetgordon is updated, please send me an email.
Here's my advice as it appeared on the pages of the summer 2006 issue of Modern Bride:
Q: How can I be sure that my fiancÚ "behaves himself" at his bachelor party?
A: One idea is to try to get your brother or other family member, invited. "If he's there, your fiancÚ won't do anything too questionable," says Doug Gordon, author of The Engaged Groom. Short of that, there's no real way to control things. "'Contol' is a terrible concept when talking about marriage! It's more an issue of expectations, so cummunicating them is key," Gordon says. He advises starting a conversation with "This is how I feel" rather than "I don't want you doing this." If you're friendly with the best man, you can approach him, too--just don't lay down rules. Says Gordon: "That would re-enforce the ball-and-chain stereotype and have the guys egging him on with: 'Hey, this is your last chance to do what you want!'"