January 31, 2006

Deep in the Heart of Texas

The Fort Wayne (TX) News-Sentinel published the article by Wendy Donahue that first ran in the Chicago Tribune. It's about diamond rings and I'm quoted mostly as an expert on guys' states of mind. Enjoy.

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January 30, 2006

The Lulu Blooker Prize

Today is the deadline to enter for the Lulu Blooker Prize, the "world's first literary prize devoted to blooks: books based on blogs or websites." I entered the book last week.

There are cash prizes - none of which I expect to win - and a great collection of writers involved in the contest.

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January 29, 2006

You're Doin' Fine, Oklahoma

There was an article about the book in today's Tulsa World, but you can only read it online if you are a subscriber to the actual newspaper or pay to register. If you live in the Tulsa area and have seen the article, let me know what you think, OK?

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Divine Providence

I'll be on the air again, this Thursday, February 2nd, on WFHN FM (107.1 on your radio dial) in Providence, RI. I'll be on the morning show, Mornings with JR and Sharon.

More press to continue through February, so stay tuned...

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January 27, 2006

Obiligatory Million Little Pieces Post


With everyone talking about A Kazillion Tiny Bits of Things or whatever its called, posting about the controversy is now mandatory for anyone with even a cursory knowledge of blogging. I've even heard of people starting new blogs just to blog about James Frey. (Note to Oprah: I have never heard that.)

With some time to kill before meeting L and some friends earlier this evening, I was browsing the book section at Times Square's Virgin Megastore when I came across this misplaced (some might say correctly placed) copy of James Frey's book and snapped a picture with my crappy cellphone camera. Now that Frey has been properly dressed down by Oprah, will all of his books be similarly moved?

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January 26, 2006


In case you missed it, yesterday was the official release date of my book in Australia.

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January 25, 2006

Seattle, I'm Listening

A slow radio week for me with just one interview, although it's in a big city. I'll be on the air in Seattle on KBKW AM (1450 AM on your radio dial) on Friday at 7:05 am PST. I'm scheduled for a full half hour, so listen and call in with your questions or comments.

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January 23, 2006

Ennis Maguire

We saw Brokeback Mountain over the weekend. L pointed out that "I wish I knew how to quit you" is likely to become the "You had me at hello" of 2006.

Sure enough, the quote is already on T-shirts and in non-gay-cowboy-movie headlines.

Meme on.

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No, I Didn't Quote Billy Joel

I'm quoted in an article in yesterday's Newsday, out on New York's Long Island.

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January 20, 2006

Request for Reviews

If you recently purchased a copy of the book (and your last name isn't Gordon or Kaye), I'd really appreciate it if you would write a quick review of The Engaged Groom at Amazon or any of the other big online booksellers. Reviews from regular readers really do help sell books, so I'd appreciate any kind words you can type my way. Thanks!

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Galapagos Panorama

This will be the last Galapagos picture. The rest are up on my flickr page. I uploaded a lot of pictures and realized that anyone searching for "boobies" using tags on flickr will be hugely disappointed.

I'll be on the radio again on Monday on KQMT FM in Denver, Colorado at 11:45 am. (That's EST, so it would be 9:45 Denver time.) The station streams online so listen in! It's the only one scheduled for the day as the radio blitz slows down a bit next week.


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January 19, 2006

Madame Librarian

My editor sent me this review from Library Journal, an industry trade magazine. The book was highlighted with a starred review.

Until recently, most wedding planning guides were strictly the province of the bride. Now, along with the current trend of couples seeking to customize their weddings to their own tastes, comes a new category of wedding planners-grooms' guides. New York City-based writer and producer Gordon offers a book that covers much of the same territory as many others in this genre: understanding the basic elements of wedding attire, choosing a best man, registering for gifts, and hiring photographers, videographers, and DJs. The difference is that Gordon does it with humor and intelligence and in a tone that is guy-friendly yet not patronizing (no mention of "clueless grooms" here). He suggests the groom get involved by choosing tasks that interest him and roles that are compatible with his existing skill sets, e.g., the "producer" who makes lists and creates budgets; the "IT consultant" who builds a wedding web site or creates spreadsheets to track addresses, RSVPs, and thank you notes; the "delivery guy" who drops off and picks up stuff. Gordon's down-to-earth, practical advice-based on his experiences during his own engagement and recent marriage to Rabbi Leora Kaye-rings true. One of the best of its kind, this guide is highly recommended for all libraries holding wedding planning collections.

-Deborah Ebster, Univ. of Central Florida Libs., Orlando Copyright 2005 Reed Business Information.

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Chicago Trib

I'm quoted in this article by Wendy Donahue from the Chicago Tribune, published January 15.

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Galapagos Mockingbird


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January 18, 2006

Interview Schedule...

...for Thursday, January 19th. (All times are EST.)

7:10 am
WATD FM (95.9 FM), Boston, MA. Live interview with South Shore Morning News. (More homestate love.)

7:20 am
WIOJ AM, Jacksonville, FL. Live on The Ed Furbee Show.

8:15 am
KCVM FM, Cedar Falls, IA. Live interview.

9:00 am
KCMN AM, Colorado Springs, CO. Live with Tron in the Morning.

9:25 am
WFON FM (107.1 FM), Milwaukee, WI. Live with Jon and Mary in the Morning. (L's sis and brother-in-law live there, so at least two people will be tuning in just for me.)

9:45 am
WHAM AM (1180 AM), Rochester, NY. Live with Chet and Beth.

11:45 am
KCVO FM, Camdenton, MO. Live interview.

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Counting My Thanks

You may recall my concern a little while ago that I might reply a radio or TV host's "thank you" at the end of an interview by saying "thank you" in return. So, how have I been doing? A report card.

Interview #1. Host: "Thanks." Me: "Good to talk to you." In my quest to avoid saying thank you in response to thank you, I'm off to a good start.

#2. Host: "Thanks." Me: "Thanks for having me on." It's not yet 8:30 and I'm slipping.

#3. Host: "Thanks for talking with us." Me: "Thanks for having me." This is not good, and is in fact just a long-form way of responding to gratitude with gratitude.

#4. Host: "Good luck with the book." Me: "Thanks." Perfectly acceptable in this case.

#5. Host: "Thanks." Me: "Thanks a lot." Ugh.

#6: Host: "Have a great day." Me: "Thank you." Off the hook on that one.

#7. Host: "Thank you." Me: "Thanks for having me on." Not good.

#8. Host: "Thank you." Me: "Thanks for having me on." I've learned nothing in the 15 minutes since the last interview.

#9. The host says, "Keep it real." I reply with "thanks," a perfectly acceptable response to someone's wish for things to be kept real.

#10. "Doug, good luck to you." I reply with the standard, "Thanks for having me on," although a little gratitude is fine in response to a wish of good luck.

Too many thanks in my opinion, but, um, thankfully the substance of the interviews went well. In one, a host asked me when I got married and when I told him that it was in August of 2004, he said I was still basically a newlywed. I responded, "Yeah, we still have that newlywed smell."

The best quote of the day came from one host who, moments before the interview began, put me on hold to read a commercial. "Give me a minute to sell some dog food and I'll get right to you."

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Galapagos Land Iguana


My pictures from the trip are now online at flickr.

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January 17, 2006

Quick Radio Schedule

No time for links to each of these places, but here's the quick rundown of radio interviews for Wednesday, January 18.

7:35 am
KYA AM, Philadelphia PA. This interview will be taped and perhaps broadcast shortly after and repeated during the day.

8:45 am
WOCM FM, Ocean City, MD. Live interview.

9:10 am
WXLO FM, Worcester, MA. Live interview. (I'm psyched about this one because I listen to this station when I'm home in Massachusetts.)

10:00 am
KMVR FM, Las Cruces, NM. Live on the Magic Morning Show.

11:00 am
WLW AM, Cincinatti, OH. Live with Midday with Mike McConnell. My notes say that I'll be on for 30 minutes! Perhaps it's a typo and it's only 3. Either way, I'm ready!

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Galapagos? Galapagone


L and I just got back from a week in the Galapagos Islands, truly the most amazing place I have ever visited. I'll be posting a few of my favorite photos from the trip this week and will soon have most of my pictures loaded to Flickr. Enjoy this one for now. (Click on the image to enlarge.)

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January 16, 2006

Check Your Local Listings

The media blitz truly begins this week as I have a full schedule of radio interviews over the next few days.

Tuesday, January 17th (All times are EST)

7:35 am
USA Radio Network, 10 minute interview on Daybreak USA. (Nationally syndicated program)

8:20 am
WDUN AM, Gainesville, GA, 10 minute interview.

8:40 am
KUKA FM, Corpus Christie, TX, 10 minute interview.

9:20 am
WHAM AM, Rochester, NY, 10 minute interview. (This is a news/talk station and not, as you might think, a station that plays music by George Michael and Andrew Ridgely.)

9:50 am
Cable Radio Network, 10 minute interview. (Syndicated nationally.)

10:10 am
WDDD FM, Marion, IL, 10 minute interview with Wes and April in the Morning. (This is a taped interview and will air later...not sure exactly when.)

10:20 am
WGTD FM, Milwaukee, WI. (This interview was actually taped today and will air on the Public Radio-affiliated station during their morning show...not sure of the exact time.)

3:00 pm
KLIK AM, Jefferson City, MO, 10 minute taped interview to air sometime during the station's morning show...again, not sure exactly when, could be later in the week. (This station covers St. Louis as well.)

I have interviews scheduled for Wednesday in Philadelphia, PA; Providence, RI; Ocean City, MD; Worcester, MA; Las Cruces, NM; and Cincinnati, OH. Thursday you can hear me in Boston, MA; Jacksonville, FL; Colorado Springs, CO; Milwaukee, WI; and Camdenton, MO.

I'll post schedules for each of these days on the evenings before so you can tune in if you're curious. Most of these stations stream live on the Internet so you can listen no matter where you are.

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January 13, 2006

Would It Kill You to Make Some New Year's Resolutions?

I've only just now made it through many of those year-end, best-of lists adding movies to my Netlfix queue, downloading a couple of new albums from iTunes and making a note of some books to catch up on before another year passes.

Then I started to wonder. At Rosh Hashana, do Jewish people make year-end lists? I went to Hebrew school, I'm married to a rabbi, and I can't answer this question. Did anyone in my Temple ever make a list of the best movies of, say, 5760? Or are best-of lists purely a function of Gregorian calendar regularity? Are Chinese people making their year-end lists before January 29th?

During the high holidays in the fall look for my year-end lists of the best Jewish everything. While I won't give away any surprises, Steven Spielberg's Munich is the movie to beat.

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January 11, 2006

One Thumb Up

This may be the first real review of the book, at least that I'm aware of. Not too shabby.

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January 09, 2006

Help This Guy Make a Decision, Please

Some people use online comments and feedback to decide what books to buy at Amazon or what sellers to trust on eBay. Others solicit user feedback to decide whether or not to marry a girlfriend.

The funniest - or scariest, depending on your point of view - part of ShouldIGetMarried.com is the list of pros and cons.

So help this guy out, will ya?

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January 05, 2006


Here's a transcript of my chat yesterday on Boston.com. Read it and relive the Java applet excitement!

I'm actually a great typer - the result of a class I had to take my freshman year in high school using an actual typewritter - and that might have shown on the chat...had I been typing. Boston.com had a few technical problems hooking me up on my end - they were trying a new chat program and I was the guinea pig - that eventually I abandoned my computer altogether and had questions read to me over the phone. I then gave my answers, slowly, to Norm from Boston.com and he typed them in as my response. Norm was very nice and patient and we even had time between questions to chat a little bit about Boston, but unlike my book this is one time when I can say that all spelling errors are, in fact, someone else's.

One mistake was my own: telling someone that the standard formula for buying an engagement ring is six months' salary! Whoops. Under pressure, I blanked on the answer. I my book covers everything after the engagement, and the ring I gave L was my grandmother's, so perhaps I'm ignorant enough to not have that info easily accessible in my brain. But thanks to a chat participant, the info was quickly corrected. It's only one to two months' salary, of course, which at my salary equals about ten million dolllars in Monopoly money. I landed on my feet, though, and I hope you'll give me points for the recovery.

Thanks, though, to Norm and the guys at Boston.com for being so nice and for plugging my book on the site. I appreciate it.

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January 04, 2006


If you missed me on the radio in Cleveland this morning - I almost missed it myself; I'm usually still in bed at 7:15 - you can catch me in just a few minutes on 96.7 in Chico, CA. The station streams live on the Internet. I just spoke to the host and found out that I'll be taking questions from the audience. It's a day of firsts for me. Larry King-like, I want to say "Chico, hello." Usually you can only say that in a bar in Spanish Harlem.

And don't forget to go to Boston.com for my online chat at 1 PM. I'm a fast typer, so I should be able to answer a lot of questions.

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January 03, 2006

The Daily Doug

This has been a busy day as far as publicity news goes. Today's New York Daily News has a big three-page spread titled The Rules of Engagement. Lo and behold, my book is included in a sidebar item, "Books: 4 we love."

Who says the groom can't help arrange a wedding? According to the author, who gives planning advice from a male perspective, "The days of showering, shaving and just showing up are over."

With Howard Stern temporarily off the airwaves, clearly I, with a presence on radio, in print, and online, am the king of all media.

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And Another Thing...

I should also remind you about my online chat on Boston.com, scheduled for tomorrow at 1 PM. See you online!

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Radio, Radio

I'll be doing some of my first radio interviews tomorrow, Wednesday, January 4th. If you're in either of these two cities, please tune in. If you're in both of these two cities, that would be one heck of a coincidence.

WMJI 105.7 FM, Cleveland, OH
7:10 AM (EST)
I'll be interviewed on the Lanigan & Malone Show, Cleveland's number one morning radio show.

Club 96.7, KZAP FM, Chico, CA
8:15 AM (PST)
I'll be interviewed by host Boomer Davis.

Both of these stations stream live on the Internet, so please listen in no matter where you are!

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Blog My Book CONTEST!

Want a free, autographed copy of The Engaged Groom? It's easy! Just blog about my book and you might walk away as the big winner.

PlanetGordon.com is having its first-ever contest, all in the name of blatant promotion! Here's how it works:

1. On your personal* blog, post an entry that somehow mentions The Engaged Groom.**

2. In your entry, link to the book's official website.***

3. On February 1st, 2006, I'll check my referral logs. The blog entry that has directed the most individual visitors**** to EngagedGroom.com will win its author a free, autographed copy of the book, dedicated to the person of the winner's choosing.*****

4. After tallying the referral stats, I'll email the winning blog entry's author to get a mailing address. The book will be sent at my expense.******

5. I'll post an entry that links back to the winning blog. The entry will most likely link back to as many blogs as I can find that mention the book. It's win-win when you think about it.

Here's a McSweeney's-esque heading to cover the fine print:

Rules, Exceptions and other Information Which, Like the Information Presented at the End of a Car Commericial, May be Longer and More Detailed than the Text or Information Which Precedes It:

*Defining a blog as personal is ambiguous. While the various blogs on the New York Times website or Gawker are more than welcome and, in fact, encouraged to pimp my book, being moneymaking enterprises (if not for their writers than at least for their owners) they are not eligible for any prize, other than the satisfaction from doing a fellow writer a favor.

**I'd rather you not post something like, "Hey, I'm trying to win a contest, so will you please click on this link?" I can't tell you what to write, of course, but to paraphrase Han Solo in Return of the Jedi, post about the book, but don't look like you're trying to win the book. Post casual. Also, I will automatically disqualify anyone who uses the phrases "insult to the English language," "not what Gutenberg had in mind," "one hundred monkeys at one hundred typewriters" and "suitable for recycling" when referring to the book.

***You might be tempted to link to the book's Amazon page, especially if you are part of their affiliate program. Unfortunately, I don't have the technical ability to track referrals to Amazon from outside sites. Only Jeff Bezos could help me with that and we are no longer on speaking terms, nor were we ever.

****Yes, that's individual visitors. No sense posting a link and then clicking it twenty times unless you are exercising your index finger.

*****I will not, however, dedicate a book to anyone with the first initial "e" and last name "Bay."

******Unless you live in Canada, Europe, Tibet or French Polynesia. U.S. addresses only. I'm not spending $25 to mail a $14.95 book. First class mail all the way.

Other rules:

- Employees of PlanetGordon.com are not eligible. I have no employees.
- Gordon family members and the family members of my wife are not eligible. Relatives looking for a free book should consider that I will one day have children who will need food, clothing and a university education, unless they are a complete disappointment to both me, L and their grandparents and decide to live on a commune or do something really stupid, like that American Taliban kid. Talk about disappointing. Anyway, a freebie to family members who should be buying the book would, essentially, take food out of the mouths of my unborn and as-yet-unconceived children. Have you people no sense of decency? Really. Shame on you.
- Friends, however, are another story as many of them have blogs, some of which are quite popular, and I'd be a fool to not encourage them to post about my book for their probably vast, educated, handsome, and upwardly-mobile readership.
- Contest ends on midnight, January 31st, 2006. Unless I go to bed early and don't check the referral stats until the next day after work.
- In the event of the tie, it's sudden death. I'll check the stats each day until one person pulls ahead.

Let the games begin. Thanks and good luck!

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