April 28, 2005

Any Takers?

Check out this ad from Craigslist:

New TV show seeks married couples thinking of divorce

New Show hosted by a well known celebrity is seeking to help MARRIED couples who are seriously considering divorce. A huge plus if you're still living together. If you are the married couple who talks about divorce all the time but haven't taken that final step to hire an attorney.

If you are a couple who's on the verge of divorce but feel there may be some small chance to save the marriage, we would love to help you. Please call Ron asap at XXX-XXX-XXXX. also, please respond to this email with CONTACT INFORMATION, and write us the details of your current situation/telling us how the marriage fell apart.

Please include recent photo's in your email. We're looking for married couples in the 23 to 37 age range...

As much as I'd like to believe that they'll get few applicants for this show, the fact that people eat whale testicles for a few thousand bucks doesn't give me too much faith. But I'm still not sure what the purpose of this show will be. If you won't go to therapy but will go on a reality show, then your marriage is probably doomed anyway.

Posted by Doug at 06:14 PM | Comments (0)

April 26, 2005

The Big News

Last year as I started to think about what would happen to this site after the wedding, I listened to my friends and family members and their many suggestions for the future of PlanetGordon.com. The number one suggestion, of course, was that I write a book.

But what book? What would it be?

I did a little homework and eventually got in touch with a fantastic agent at ICM. With her help and patience, I was able to put together a proposal for a groom's guide to getting married. For those of you who were recently married or who are currently engaged, you'll know that the resources available to grooms are insulting at best. Much like this website, my proposal spoke of grooms who want to get involved, who have opinions and who recognize that a wedding is supposed to be a celebration of two people's love, not just the realized fantasy of a bride and her mother.

Cut to only a few weeks ago. My agent emailed me telling me to call her ASAP. On the phone, she gave me the good news: a division of HarperCollins bought the proposal. So, come this winter, you'll be able to find my words, advice and opinions on a bookshelf near you. PlanetGordon has begotten a book.

What does this mean? For starters, it means that words printed on paper will be bound into an easy-to-carry volume suitable for reading or displaying on a shelf, but that's not important right now.

What it really means is that I have my work cut out for me. The manuscript is due June 15th and while some material will be culled from this site, much more has to be written from scratch and organized into a form that makes sense on paper. My proposal included a full outline, chapter summary and sample chapter, but there's still a lot to be done. I want to give this my all and will have to devote a considerable amount of time over the next six weeks to getting it right.

It also means that I'll be asking for your help from time to time. I'd like to include real-life stories from grooms about their experience with everything from addressing invitations and picking a band to dealing with sensitive and opinionated in-laws and relatives.

Additionally, I'll be able to give this site a new focus as there will be plenty of details I'll want to share. There will be book jacket designs, sections that need to be edited, publicity ideas and much more information that I'll share with you as it comes up. (I met with my editor and brainstormed titles. We may have settled on one, but I'm reluctant to reveal it now until I have an official word from the publisher.)

Thank you for all that you have done to make this possible. PlanetGordon.com became bigger than I ever expected thanks to your readership. I will be hunkered down in the library tapping away on my laptop for the next six weeks because your support proved that there was an audience for this kind of material.

Let the writing begin.

Posted by Doug at 01:24 PM | Comments (11)

April 20, 2005

Back Soon With Big News

Sorry for the dearth of entries lately. Between travel, work and everything else that happens in life I have little time to post right now. Even seeing L has been tricky given our differently busy schedules.

But stay tuned...next week I'll be back with a big announcement that will hopefully breathe new life into the site. (And no, it's not a baby.)

Thanks as always for reading.

Posted by Doug at 11:14 PM | Comments (4)

April 18, 2005


The New York Times offers up an article on creating and giving mix CDs as wedding favors, a subject of much debate in our household last year.

The article adds nothing new to the discussion and, in effect, could just as easily be about any other facet of a wedding, including the sum total of the wedding itself.

Why? Because every person quoted on the subject of making CDs as wedding favors thought that their CD was the Best Mix Ever. Like every other part of a wedding, no one wants to think that their band, cake, caterer, etc. was second tier, so why would CD mixes be any different? Chances are you've never heard a groom say "I had a good time at my wedding, but John and Suzy's was so much better." We like our choices the most because they are our choices.

But I'm not so self-centered to think that our mix was the greatest in creation. But no matter what people thought of our song choices, I'm sure they liked it better than a candle or bag of Jordan almonds. And if they didn't like it at all, well then, they now have a really great coaster with our names on it.

Posted by Doug at 01:14 PM | Comments (1)

April 12, 2005

WWJW? (What Would Jesus Wear?)


No, it's not competition for the famous Taken T-shirt, because after all, can your betrothed really compete with the Almighty? It's a T shirt from Be The Message Christian Apparel.

Underneath a quote from Corinthians on the page listing their "Sorry, I'm Taken" shirt, there is this descriptive copy:

Tell the world that you take your relationship with Jesus seriously. Tell them "Sorry, I'm Taken!"

Compare that with the language I use at my online store to describe my "Taken" T shirt:

Tell the world you're spoken for with this classy, high-quality tee.

Coincidence? We'll never know. The Lord works in mysterious ways. I'm just glad that someone else out there shares my belief that the primary means of communicating one's ideas with the world these days is via Hanes beefy tees.

Posted by Doug at 12:22 AM | Comments (4)

April 05, 2005

Just Call Me Brooklynboy

Stealing a page from Veiled Conceit, I must point out something that caused me no small amount of confusion and amusement after reading this Sunday's "Vows" column.

Geeta Chopra wears a heart drawn with eyeliner on her cheek and answers her cellphone saying, "Citygirl," a surname she adopted in college.

I was curious about why she would have adopted something that sounds like an Instant Messaging handle as her surname. Thank god for Zach at VC, who unearthed this tidbit:

Her classmates, who had a tough time correctly pronouncing the name "Geeta", gave her a nickname "Citygirl." When she turned 18, she officially changed her name to Geeta Citygirl.

Huh? This reminded me of the old joke about the guy who grows up with the name Phil Lipschitz. After having such a hard time of it growing up and being teased throughout high school and hazed by his college buddies, he decides to change his name...to Robert Lipschitz.

Posted by Doug at 01:57 PM | Comments (0)