Here's my advice as it appeared on the pages of the summer 2006 issue of Modern Bride:
Q: How can I be sure that my fiancé "behaves himself" at his bachelor party?Posted by Doug at July 20, 2006 09:03 PMA: One idea is to try to get your brother or other family member, invited. "If he's there, your fiancé won't do anything too questionable," says Doug Gordon, author of The Engaged Groom. Short of that, there's no real way to control things. "'Contol' is a terrible concept when talking about marriage! It's more an issue of expectations, so cummunicating them is key," Gordon says. He advises starting a conversation with "This is how I feel" rather than "I don't want you doing this." If you're friendly with the best man, you can approach him, too--just don't lay down rules. Says Gordon: "That would re-enforce the ball-and-chain stereotype and have the guys egging him on with: 'Hey, this is your last chance to do what you want!'"