May 06, 2005
QOTD: Destination Weddings
Keep the emails comin'!
I'm working on a section of my book about destination weddings. I have strong opinions on the subject, but having only been to one in my life - a fun weekend in Puerto Rico - I have a limited perspective. What are your thoughts on destination weddings? Whether you hosted one or were simply the guest at one, was it worth the effort and expense? I've noticed that destination weddings tend to be smaller affairs, presumably because fewer people can afford to fly to Rome or Jamaica than, say, Cleveland. Has that been your experience?
As always, your emails or comments might be included in my book as I'm looking to fill a few holes by including the thoughts and opinions of Real Live Grooms. Thanks for helping.
Posted by Doug at May 6, 2005 12:35 AM
My fiance and I are getting married this summer in the Virgin Islands. We live on the east coast. We opted for a destination wedding for several reasons:
- We're older and didn't want all the "hoopla" of a traditional wedding. Having been a bridesmaid over a dozen times, I also didn't want the stress of a traditional wedding. We didn't want to lose site of what's most important about this day. It's been a pretty laid back planning experience.
- We wanted to go someplace that was special to us, and fun for everyone!
- We are having a smaller guest list for the wedding. We wanted to be able to spend time with our family and friends on a day that's supposed to be one of the most important days of our lives. It seems like a much better option than spending 4 hours in a hotel that goes by in blur.
- The expense was also another big factor. We have a rather large family, and are lucky to have many friends. We'd go broke by having it locally. Weddings have gotten to be soooo expensive.
And that's really it in a nutshell.
We went to San Francisco for the reception (the wedding was small for immediate family only and held on the east coast). The reception lasted 3 days starting with a wine tour the evening of the first day, followed by a baseball game and a dinner with dancing the main day in a famous location. The next morning was a brunch in a location that overlooked both bridges.
For us the expense (from the east coast) was fine because we combined it with business there and a trip to see other relatives to the north.
It was a nice combination of planned events and free time for site seeing.