December 15, 2004

Present Tense

Being and Enlightened Husband is not always as easy as being an Enlightened Groom. Where once I could pick up concrete jobs like mailing invitations or writing thank-you notes, my post-wedding responsibilities are a little less defined. Instead of remembering to do things, I now have to remember to remember things.

One way that you can tell I've settled into marriage is that I've already forgotten to remember at least one important event, Hannukah. That's right. I forgot about a holiday that lasts for more than a week.

I knew it was coming; L and I had discussed what we wanted for Hannukah a few weeks ago, but had come to the agreement that we wouldn't buy presents for each other this year. Instead, we decided to put a little money towards the big vacation we're planning to take sometime after the new year. But I should have known better.

I should have know that a pact to not buy each other anything really means that I should have taken more time to surprise L with something. L did her part, buying us tickets to a Broadway show, and surprising me on the first night of Hannukah with the news. Me? I foolishly took our pact at face value and transferred a few bucks into a joint account L and I had set up shortly after we got engaged (more on combining finances later).

So, here we are, on Hannukah's last night and I still haven't made it up to L. She's not upset at all - that's not her style - but I still feel guilty. What's an Enlightened Husband to do?

Posted by Doug at December 15, 2004 04:11 PM

Surprise her by having her favorite dessert set up at home when you get back from the show? She definitely won't be expecting it then, and it's more sweet than spendy.

Posted by: P at December 16, 2004 03:15 PM

Your religion and your "enlightened husband" status mean one thing, you have a lot of guilt! I'm sure you will make it up to her sometime.

Posted by: jt at December 16, 2004 04:49 PM

Years of academic research suggests that holiday related guilt is best eased by sending a post-holiday gift to your father.

Posted by: FOG at December 18, 2004 07:09 AM