November 08, 2004

Presents of Mind

L and I just sent out another batch of thank-you notes for some gifts we've received since the wedding. We still have about five left to do if we don't receive any more gifts in the coming months. Still, it's been nice to see Kenny, our UPS guy, every so often as his visits and the gifts he brings from friends and family are nice reminders to me and L of our newlywed status.

On a side note, someone emailed me to ask what to do with some of his unwanted gifts. This fellow received some artwork and a set of salad tongs that simply would not go with the new apartment he and his wife are buying. He wasn't sure what store they were from, so he couldn't return them for credit or exchange them for something more aesthetically pleasing. As they are moving soon, he wanted to know how to best get rid of them.

Before I offer my advice, I should issue this disclaimer: never get rid of a gift if there is any chance of the person who gave it to you coming to your home. They'll want to see it, want to see you using it, and will be offended if it's not around.

My intial thoughts:

Regifting - Not the best option, since if you didn't want it, why would your friends?
Garage sale - Worth doing only if the person who gave you the gift doesn't live in your neighborhood.
Ebay - The safest option as far as I'm concerned, as the anonymous nature of the Internet means there is little danger of a relative being offended when they find out you are selling their gift.
Charity - The most socially conscious of the options I could think of, although just because people are poor doesn't mean they don't have good taste.

I'd love to get more suggestions. Any thoughts?

Posted by Doug at November 8, 2004 02:48 PM

Well, you've covered all of my options!

But here's another question---is it wrong to exchange the silverware settings I registered for? I haven't used them, but I don't think I like my pattern anymore!

Posted by: E from Michigan at November 9, 2004 02:40 PM

We are thinking of unloading some of them at the Annual White Elephant Christmas Party we attend. Just make sure none of the friends attending gave you said gifts.

Posted by: Majel at November 9, 2004 03:38 PM

E, I don't think that would be wrong. We got many gifts we registered for and some were impulses and others ppl bought us the same item not from the registry and we don't know where to return it so we are returning the one off the registry.

Otherwise we are regifting some and saving others just in case.

Posted by: JRae at November 10, 2004 12:03 PM