I mentioned to my father not too long ago about how lucky L and I have been that no one - so far - has had a breakdown or made any unreasonable requests. With all the stories you hear of nightmare brides, picky in-laws and stressed out grooms, I asked my dad why it was that so many otherwise sane people go so crazy when planning a wedding.
My father's simple observation?
"Some people are more concerned with getting married than being married."
Posted by The Groom at May 28, 2004 12:01 AMYour dad is a very wise man indeed!
Posted by: Heather at May 30, 2004 02:03 AMThat's probably true - task oriented people tend to focus on the next task and a wedding is an enourmous task. So did he (your dad) have any advice on being married?
Posted by: Ellison at May 30, 2004 02:36 PMMy folks have been married for over 30 years, so he's definitely doing something right. Maybe that will be fodder for a future post.
Posted by: The Groom at May 31, 2004 12:37 AMYou are very lucky that you haven't had any of these issues. My husband and I were going to be in my brother in laws wedding but the bride has turned into the bride from hell and has kicked me out because of a honest mistake I made with the invitations to the shower. My husband is still in because it is his brother but the bride is calling to "make suggestions" about the bachelor party. My husbands whole family is now in the middle of a situation that has gotten way out of hand. I feel most horrible for my husband because he knows how hurt my feelings are. He is so worried about what his brother is getting himself into and his mother is putting pressure on him to let the "girls work it out and don't let this come between you and your bother." Easier said then done.
It is sad that people do lose sight over the fact that this is one day and the world doesn't stop for that one day. I think that a lot of women experience depression after the wedding because it is so anti-claimatic the day after or once the honeymoon is over. It is so easy to lose sight of the big picture when there is so much to plan and people become consumed with everything and once it is done, you cannot do it again and really I don't think people will remember the fish or the chicken or the details that you tried to remember or make special if all they can remember is how poorly you handled yourself under the pressure!