May 04, 2004

Parents Just Do Understand

How is it possible that in one weekend L and I saw less of each other than our parents did?

While I was on a day-long bike ride and L prepared for a two-day conference in Providence, my parents picked L's parents up at Boston's Logan airport. In town for a wedding, L's parents got in touch with mine and the four decided to spend the afternoon together, enjoying some time at the marina where my dad keeps his sailboat. Lunch and ice cream were involved, as was a stroll around the marina. If I didn't know that the day involved four married people all over the age of fifty, it would sound remarkably like a date to me.

Some people have emailed me hoping I could give some advice on how to deal with controlling parents or what to say to a mom who nitpicks every detail of the planning. If I had a frame of reference, it might make for some helpful advice and more entertaining posts. Thankfully, L's parents and mine have been a pleasure to deal with, incredibly generous at every step of the way. In fact, the only thing I'm ever nagged about is posting to this website. But that's a minor thing in the grand scale of what could go wrong. I've pulled off quite a feat, in my opinion, managing to not offend an immediate relatative in the eight months I've been doing this. Don't worry, though. There are still 117 days left until the wedding, as WeddingChannel.com reminds me.

Posted by The Groom at May 4, 2004 09:25 AM
Comments

One reason they probably don't nag is because they have lots of inside information. They feel like they're in the loop. Lots of times when communication is poor, people feel left out.. or feel like you aren't concentrating enough on the wedding. That's when the nerves get frayed and the nagging begins. Everyone probably feels included in your planning thanks to your blog.
Sara *married about one month*

Posted by: Sara at May 4, 2004 01:29 PM

I only wish that I had living in-laws-to-be :(

Posted by: sulizano at May 4, 2004 06:15 PM

I can't think of anything clever to say - Thank you. You brought tears to my eyes and a smile to my face!!!!!

Posted by: MOG at May 5, 2004 06:36 AM

I can't think of anything clever to say - Thank You. You brought tears to my eyes and a smile to my face.

Posted by: MOG at May 5, 2004 06:37 AM

OK, I waited 24 hours before I commented because I was crying when I read the entry yesterday and couldn't think of what to say. Yes, we are blessed as well because you and L have been so great about this entire event. Of course, we got along pretty well before any planning began, so I think that is helpful too. It's been fun because you two are fun and it is so special to plan such an exciting event. As to the in-law situation, how could we not get along, you are a great and fun and exciting person, you didn't get that way by yourself, your parents raised you!! Ok, enough sap, but it's all true.
We love you both,
MOB

Posted by: MOB at May 5, 2004 09:27 AM

Yes, I know. I'm a big kiss ass.

Posted by: The Groom at May 5, 2004 12:39 PM

How did you like Providence? I am getting married there in less than 6 weeks!

Posted by: Cris at May 5, 2004 11:18 PM

It was L who was in Providence, not I. I've been there many times, however, and like it a lot. I call it "mini Boston" because it has a similar feel, only on a smaller scale.

Posted by: The Groom at May 6, 2004 08:56 AM