March 25, 2004
Not Emily Post, but the New York Post
An article in today's New York Post addresses the rising cost of celebrating other people's weddings. The piece, written by Mary Huhn, gives voice to the growing chorus of people who are concerned about all the money they shell out for other people.
No grooms are quoted in the article.
Posted by The Groom at March 25, 2004 01:38 PM
Huhn quotes a wedding expert saying "If you're single, you see the money flying out the door" but it's not just singles! When you're in a couple, it's TWICE the money that together you may want to spend on something else...Which is what my boyfriend keeps saying about the FOUR DAY destination wedding extravaganza we have in Italy this fall.
OK, if you decide (as the woman in the article has) to attend TWENTY weddings in a year, you have no one to blame but yourself. Can you honestly tell me those are 20 couples about whom you care so much about you cannot avoid going? You are allowed to decline invitations! And since when did attending all the events become mandatory, especially trips to Vegas for the parties?
We've already had a couple of people tell us they can't come to the wedding because tight budgets this year make them unable to afford a plane ticket. My response? That I completely understand and that we'll hopefully have plenty of chances to celebrate over drinks or dinner somewhere in the neighborhood.
We're also getting married in August, but we're really trying to keep expenses down -- for us (since we're paying for it all ourselves) and our guests. We're not having showers, engagement parties, whatnot. Seems like a lot of extra hoopla and I don't want to make my friends or family buy more gifts. We're going to a wedding in a couple of weeks that is ending up costing us about $1000! That's a real pain for someone like me, who's in grad school. We must band together to end the wedding expense tyranny!