December 29, 2003

Save the Day

This weekend L and I spent hours and hours obsessing over thousands of details. Nothing was too small to be left out. I was amazed at the sheer volume of information we had to process. We argued for hours as we went along and at the end still found there were hundreds of questions left unanswered. There are still more details left to go over and we both think it's amazing that we're only about one third of the way done.

Yes, on Christmas Day L and I watched the extended version of The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring. Nearly four hours of movie time, plus countless documentaries and making-of features gave us the laziest, most stress-free day we've had yet.

But even multi-disc box sets have their endings and it was time to get down to work. We have to send out Save the Date cards within the next two months, which means we have to get them printed soon. So out came the laptop and we started putting down all the information we needed to express. Hotel information, airline discount codes, car rental company phone numbers, driving directions.

Putting a wedding together is like producing a movie. Your pre-production - budget meetings, prop selections and location scouting - takes months. Some weddings feature a cast of thousands (well, hundreds) while others lean towards the smaller, Miramax productions. In the end of it all you get your very own special edition video. For brides and grooms who spend their wedding receptions in a blind stupor due to happiness and excitement, the video features tons of scenes one might have missed the first time around.

The Save the Date cards aren't done - we still have to get them designed - but we agreed on the information they would contain and decided not to make them too cutesy. No "We are so delighted you will share this special day" greeting or anything like that. Just the facts, plain and simple. We'll save cutesy for the invitations themselves.

But if all we're doing is sending out a where-and-when info card (don't worry, Mom, it will be classier than just that) wouldn't it just be easier to collect a bunch of email addresses and send the whole thing as an Evite?

Posted by The Groom at December 29, 2003 09:41 AM

That's exactly what we're planning to do!

When I first received an electronic 'Save-the-date' notice, I hesitated before deciding whether it seemed tacky, but then my intended pointed out that the 'save-the-date' card itself seem to be a fairly recent invention... I don't recall ever having seen anything like them at all until this year, when I was inundated with them. Why not combine the ease of e-mail with the happenin' trend?

I love your site! It's been helpful to us, and quite entertaining too!

Posted by: sulizano at December 29, 2003 10:22 AM

Francis and I had a less formal wedding than I imagine you're having, but here's what we did: we called up people like relatives, and then sent out save-the-date e-mail to all of our attendees we had e-mail addresses for. If it bothered people, I don't know, because all we got were dozens of delighted e-mails from friends and no complaints.

Posted by: Rose at December 31, 2003 07:36 PM