Last night I went on a writing tear, finishing most of the thank-yous for the gifts we received at the engagement party. Most of the cards will be in the mail by the weekend. L thinks it's great that I've finished so soon after the weekend but is also a little nervous. Will the fact that I wrote all of the notes - she just had to sign her name - be used against her at a later date when a larger task needs to be done?
On Saturday, we waited until after people had left the party to open a few presents. I don't have a lot of experience with this, so how are you supposed to react when you open their present in their presence? "Wow! The blender we picked out for ourselves! Now we know exactly how much you spent on us! Thanks!" We're not ungrateful jerks, we just feel a little uneasy making a show of our gifts. It's one thing to open presents at a party when you are seven years old and unwrapping Legos and Star Wars figures, it's another thing to do it when you are thirty and unwrapping frying pans.
Because we want people to know how appreicative we are, L and I agreed that we shouldn't let a week go by without sending out a thank you. I took up the task with gusto. There are a number of challenges that go into writing the notes and I'm always up for a challenge.
Here's what I learned:
Some of the notes tell people all the things we plan to do with the gift they generously gave us. We'll make pies at future Thanksgivings with the great pie plate. We'll toast to years of happiness in the beautiful wine glasses. We'll comb through the cookbook and make great recipes for years to come. When I couldn't figure out exactly how to make the use of a spatula sound personal, I knew I had to focus more on people's attendance at the party and thanking them for making the trip.
One challenge was figuring out who might compare notes, so to speak. Since notes go out to family who will talk about such things, you can't write a carbon copy thank-you, sending some sort of Mad Libs form letter:
"Thank you for the (gift name). It was incredibly (adjective) and we look forward to making (plural noun) as we (verb) our new life together."
I actually had a lot of fun writing the notes. Because we were mostly appreciative that people made the effort to come to the party - and will be similarly appreciative when people fly west to Milwaukee this summer - it was easy for me. Of course, we still have two showers and the wedding itself to come which means we'll have a lot more notes to write. Talk to me this time next year. I'll probably have L take over.Posted by The Groom at December 3, 2003 11:47 AM