November 13, 2003

No. Thank You.

As I've mentioned, we've received some gifts. As a result we've had to take care of thank-you notes.

We had gone to a fancy stationery store a few weeks ago and, while we are prepared to spend a little bit of money on invites, we agreed that dropping significant cash on thank-you notes is a waste. Aside from Valpaks and free address labels from the Humane Society, I can't think of too many things that have a less direct route from the mailbox to the trash can than thank-you notes. That's not to say that the sending of the notes themselves is not an important act - we are, of course, grateful for the thoughtfulness of our friends and family - but I doubt any of our thank-yous will end up on our guests' refrigerators. Aside from my grandmother - who will probably have hers bronzed before attempting to dedicate it to the Smithsonian - most people will probably read their note, think "That's nice," and then toss it.

After sifting through books and books and books of samples, we realized we could do something very similar ourselves for a lot less money and left the store. L put together a very professional looking note card using a graphic she found online (The graphic will make sense to anyone who knows how we met). It's almost identical to the one at the fancy place that would have cost us the equivalent of one month's rent.

We then took the final design to a local copy shop. Think Kinko's only smaller, dirtier and without the apron-clad employees who would rather be chewing glass than working at Kinko's. The process was generally painless - no long lines, a generally helpful staff - until I heard the two words that every man fears most: "color swatches." We had to pick a color for the text - our names - on the note's front flap. I put in my two cents and was done. I wasn't going to waste too much energy arguing the relative merits of Blue, Dark Blue or Deep Sky Blue.

I've been complimented on my progressive, get-involved nature as a groom, but designing these things has not been something with which I was altogether involved. I offer much gratitude to L for taking on this project. Now that I think of it, I might even send her a thank-you note.

Posted by The Groom at November 13, 2003 12:03 PM

Great blog, just stumbled upon it from The Knot today. Going to bookmark ya.

Posted by: Clare at November 13, 2003 04:21 PM

Hey D, after reading your previous entry and this one I was wondering if your grandmother knows about your blog. Actually, I never knew what a blog was until your mom told me about yours. Maybe I should send her a thank you for telling me about it. It is absolutely hysterical - thanks for the laughs. Are there any Bat Mitzvah planning blogs out there? Maybe A and I should start one for the next round.

Posted by: Uncle M at November 14, 2003 01:38 AM

Why don't they have "you're welcome" cards?

Posted by: N at November 14, 2003 07:06 AM

I think that would start an endless cycle of thank-you and you're welcome notes being sent back and forth. And, yes, my grandmother does know about the blog, although she prefers printing out the articles and reading them.

Posted by: The Groom at November 14, 2003 09:49 AM